Mmmh. I don't feel merciful towards my husband. I'm 31yrs and he's 33. We got married when I was 27. From then till now, I have had two miscarriages and no children. He married a 2nd wife a year ago. I was very heartbroken. I didn't want to accept his decision but then we are Muslims and his mom was on his neck to have children. He inherited a 3 bedroom house from his dad. And I supported by putting money for the furnitures, kitchen items and the fence.
I insisted I wanted my own apartment but he said he can't afford 2 households. So he shared the rooms. I have a bedroom to myself and my co-wife has another and husband took the Master bedroom. We shared Kitchen and Sitting room.
He spent Thursday to Sunday in his new wife's bedroom while my turn his Mon-Wed, how's that fair? I focused on myself. Learned Copywriting, content writing skills. I have been lucky to make #400k on a bad month and more on good months. Alhamdulillah.
Unfortunately for our husband the economy is dealing with him. And I withdrew all financial support. His wife is a struggling teacher. On the previous Eid, I bought nice abaya, gold shoe and bag and I didn't wear the Ankara he bought for us.
His wife was in tears. She fought him and our husband wanted to fight me for having new things and I told him my family gave them to me. He wasn't happy cos his wife is not happy I am using iPhone 13 and laptop. I cook with the measly amount he drops. And when I miss good food I go to Amala sky and enjoy my life by ordering orisirisi. Some days, I wonder if am wicked. I just followed the Islamic teachings; my money is my
money.
Our new wife is yet to be pregnant too. His mom is telling him to marry a 3rd one Me I am planning on moving to Finland and divorce him. I'm honestly tired of being petty towards him. I don't encourage any friendship with me and his wife. I only say Teslim and remained in my bedroom. She has complained to our husband a million times. No be me she marry o abeg, she should focus on her marriage.
I'm I a bad person? I'm obliged to help him with his finances?